Book Review: The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks

Entering the new year with intentions to better myself, especially my relationship with myself, was at the forefront of my goals. I’ve made serious progress in the “self-help” areas of my life, yet I’ve scarcely read any self-help books along the way. I’ve been working diligently every year to improve how I speak to myself, what I think of myself, and how I treat my body, mind, and spirit, understanding all the ins and outs of me, and this year is no different. I closed out 2025 with the intention of really taking control of my life and growing in several areas, which led to reading self-help books and increased positive thinking. 

The Big Leap has been on my shelf for quite a while. I bought a copy back in college when I was new to therapy and listening to this writing podcast, where the host discussed writing, but also a new book every week that she enjoyed and why. I can’t remember what she said about this book, but it resonated then, and I bought a copy that week. Now, I’m aware I put it off, but I always feel that these types of things will speak to you in different ways depending on when you read them, and I think having read it now was the best time for it. It hit home for so many reasons, especially because of where I am in my life right now. 

There was an overarching theme throughout the book, and I believe that it has a lot of merit; however, I also felt that there was some serious research or science I was not privy to while reading, and I almost wish I had a psychology journal to cross-reference some of the terms and concepts. It wasn’t difficult to grasp by any means, and Gay’s examples made a ton of sense. Just being who I am, I think I would have been fascinated and had an even better/more impactful read with more information on the Upper Limit Problem. Yes, I could have stopped and researched it myself, but let’s be honest, I didn’t want to. I wanted it within the book. 

I feel I gained a lot from this book, and there was one chapter in particular that I believe has made a lasting impact, even though it's too soon to tell, maybe? The chapter “Living in Einstein Time” made a serious impact on how I go about my day. I’ve already recommended the book to friends solely for this chapter and know I will go back to read it again and again when I am in need of a reminder for how to process time, my time. 

I am not sure how much of the rest of the book will stick with me, but I can certainly see myself coming back to it in the future to revisit many of Gay’s anecdotes and concepts. I am taking strides to better understand myself, and this book was just another step in my efforts. If you are looking to level up in your life, specifically in your relationships, work, and creative hobbies, this book may be the right path for you, too. 

I am rating The Big Leap 6.5 out of 10 stars for its helpfulness, engaging ideas, and thought-provoking initiatives. 

As always, thanks for reading! 💜

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